Anal sex has long been a favourite taboo of many people. Campaigners and red-tops still use it to shock — often needlessly. Yet it still persists, and more and more people are enjoying this form of pleasure. It doesn't matter if you're male or female — the backdoor is always open for fun!
If you're interested in trying anal for the first time or just looking to expand your repertoire, the first steps are education and preparation. Good preparation for anal sex ensures a far more comfortable and pleasurable experience for you and your partner.
Take a solo journey first
When it comes to butt-play, it can be daunting to know where to start, so getting a feel for what you find pleasurable will go a long way. Make sure you're turned on (this isn't a medical exam) and start slow. Starting with a finger is an easy way to break the ice. Use lots of lube and just see what feels right. Understanding your body and what feels good will make the experience much more fun for you and your partner.
Don't skimp on the lube
The backdoor doesn't self-lubricate like the vagina, so be prepared with some silicone lube to help smooth things over. Never try anal sex without it — you'll run the risk of tearing of the wall inside your anus, increasing the risk of STIs, plus it's a needlessly painful experience. Silicone lube is hypoallergenic and has a higher viscosity than water-based lubes, so it is more slippery and will last longer. On the downside, it usually needs soap and water to get off, unlike water-based lubes.
Foreplay gets you in the mood
With anal play, getting warmed up is as important as it is with any other sexual endeavor. Getting relaxed will ease your experience. If your sphincter is too tight, it will be uncomfortable. It is important to relax, and communication with your partner is a key to success. Try having your partner start on the outside with light rubbing, and then move on to licking. Spend some time getting relaxed and in the mood. Let your partner know what feels good — experimentation can be a great way to learn what you both like. Remember, just have fun.
Start slow and steady
This isn't a race. Take your time and don't rush into it. Communication is key when it comes to anal sex. It is important to let your partner know how you're feeling. After warming up, try having your partner insert a finger first, and then a small anal plug. Eventually, move up to a penis or dildo. It cannot be stressed enough that lots of lube is extremely important. Remember that your anus is very sensitive, and while anal sex can produce a lot of amazing sensations, it needs to be handled with care. Don't be afraid to tell your partner to slow down.
Hygiene is paramount
When we're talking about the backside, you can imagine how things might get a little messy. Many people claim you should get an enema before anal play, but this isn't necessary. Since waste isn't stored in the anus, there isn't a huge risk of an accident happening. There is, however the risk of getting a little messy. Take a shower beforehand, and wash your backside with a gentle soap. Put a towel down to catch any excess lube, fecal matter or anything else you don't want on the sheets. It is important to remember that you should never go from anal to vaginal intercourse without washing first, as bacteria from your anus can cause an infection if it gets into your vagina.
Anal sex is an adventure, and it can be a wonderful thing to add to your sex life, as long as you take your time and do it right. If you've had a bad experience, it can be difficult to try again, even if your partner is really into the idea. Just remember not to rush (and don't let your partner rush you); it's all about being prepared and getting comfortable. As long as you take it slow and communicate with your partner, this could be an adventure you want to go on for years to come.